Family psychologist's advice to parents on raising children.

Children are located and develop between the extreme levels of the parents. With unfavorable conception of children (drinking, fatigue and other unfavorable moments), there are big problems with raising children emotionally and spiritually. Once upon a time, conception was approached when a man and a woman were at the level of "love". Men understood that if there was no true love of a woman for a man, then with the appearance of a child, it may not appear for a very long time.

Raising children begins long before their conception and birth. To begin with, parents must be ready for the birth and upbringing of a child. Prepare for the moment of conception. Choose the right moment for this. And properly carry out conception. You should not conceive twins or triplets. Because it will be difficult for a woman to bear and it is economically unprofitable.

Where do twins come from and other subtleties in the same section in posts for registered users.

The problem of infertility of the first child is sometimes simply resolved over time. But in order to determine that this is exactly such a problem, a consultation with a psychologist-analyst is needed. There is a very ancient game of chess, which in a certain sense symbolizes the division of people according to potential opportunities. There are such pieces as pawns, rooks, horses, elephants, king and queen. If, in life, parents associate themselves with higher pieces, then it happens that they can conceive their first child at an interval of 5-7 years. It happens that a family breaks up, and all you had to do was consult and wait.

When giving a name to a child, it is worth remembering that as you name a ship, so it will sail. Each name has its pros and cons, but there are certain subtleties. For example, the more syllables in the name, the wider the child's possibilities for realization in life.

Children are and develop between the extreme levels of development of their parents. The habits of parents, both good and bad, turn into defects in children. Accordingly, upbringing mistakes affect certain character traits. If a child

• is constantly criticized, he learns to hate;
• is ridiculed, he becomes withdrawn;
• is moderately praised, he learns to be noble;
• is supported, he learns to value himself;
• grows in reproaches, he learns to live with a sense of guilt;
• grows in tolerance, he learns to understand others;
• grows in honesty, he learns to be fair;
• grows in security, he learns to believe in people;
• grows in hostility, she learns to be aggressive;
• grows in love, she learns to find love.

You can raise children according to books, but each child needs a special book. It is worth contacting a psychologist-analyst after the birth of the child to get certain characteristics of the "professional group", temperament, "digital portrait" and get advice on potential problems in development. In terms of character development, it is important for some children to develop mercy, for others patience, willpower or other qualities.

It takes about seven years to develop each level. A young man, with proper upbringing, can develop to the level of love by the age of 28.

Most of the problems in raising children by parents lie in the mistakes of raising children. In particular, in their untimely exit from the level of childhood (6 - 7 years) to the level of service and respect for parents. As a result, we get a very serious problem of child infantilism.

Most of the problems in raising children by parents lie in the mistakes of raising children. In particular, in their untimely exit from the level of childhood (6 - 7 years) to the level of service and respect for parents. As a result, we get a very serious problem of child infantilism. Tips on how to avoid this.

Start "forgetting" that your child is small. Give him feasible work at home, determine the circle of his responsibilities. Do it gently: "You're so big, we can even entrust you with washing the dishes."

Identify common interests. These can be cognitive interests (favorite cartoons, fairy tales, games), as well as life interests (discussion of family problems).

Involve your child in the family's economic problems. Gradually teach them to compare prices, orient themselves in the family budget (for example, give money for bread and ice cream, commenting on the amount for each product).

Do not scold, and even more so - do not insult the child in the presence of strangers. Respect the feelings and thoughts of the child. To complaints from others, even a teacher or tutor, respond: "Thank you, we will definitely talk about this topic." Teach your child to share their problems. Discuss conflict situations with them that have arisen with peers and adults. Be sincerely interested in their opinion, only in this way will you be able to form the right life position in them. Constantly talk to your child. Speech development is the key to good learning. If you have been to the theater (circus, cinema) - let them tell you what they liked most. Listen carefully, ask questions so that the child feels that you are interested. Answer every question your child asks. Only in this case will their cognitive interest never fade. Try to look at the world through your child's eyes at least sometimes. Seeing the world through the eyes of another is the basis for mutual understanding.

Praise your child more often. To complaints that something is not working out, respond: "It will definitely work out, you just need to try again." Form a high level of demands. And believe yourself that your child can do anything, you just need to help. Praise with a word, a smile, caress and tenderness.

Do not build your relationship with your child on prohibitions. Agree that they are not always reasonable. Always explain the reasons for your demands, if possible, offer an alternative. Respect for the child now is the foundation of respectful treatment of you now and in the future.

For example, a large percentage of people who have the number "3" in their date of birth have vision problems. Parents will probably care about the level to which their child's vision will fall.

Based on data on temperament and the "digital portrait", a psychologist-analyst will give advice on what qualities the child should develop and what professions may suit him. It often happens that a child simply wastes his young years and a lot of his parents' money on a profession that he does not need.