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It should be noted that, currently, all over the world, the need for psychological assistance is great. A practical psychologist is a specialist who is able to listen, hear, analyze, draw conclusions and provide recommendations and suggestions on a particular issue. One of the essential forms of work is psychological counseling.

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It is simply easy to find a guy (girl) for sex. It is difficult to find a guy (girl) worthy of becoming a husband (wife). A beloved and loving woman or man. Love that comes from the heart wants reciprocity. Love without reciprocity brings suffering. You need to love no less and no more than yourself. Then everything will be fine.

A psychologist, when providing psychological assistance, must adhere to certain principles and requirements. These principles are necessary for the provision of psychological assistance to be effective, meaningful and socially acceptable. Among the most important ethical principles of psychological assistance are the following:

A friendly attitude towards the client, aimed at making the client feel calm and comfortable. The psychologist must be able to listen carefully to the client, trying to understand him. Provide the client with psychological support and assistance without judging him.

The psychologist's orientation to the client's norms and values. This can allow the client to be sincere and open.

A ban on giving advice. A psychologist, even despite his professional and life experience and knowledge, cannot give guaranteed advice to the client, in particular because the client's life and the context in which it occurs are unique and unpredictable. The client is the main expert in his own life. It is optimal when the client receives advice from several specialists and chooses those that suit him.

Anonymity. No information communicated by the client to the psychologist can be transferred without his consent to any organization or other persons, including relatives or friends.

Basic provisions of counseling:

• helps a person choose and act at his own discretion;
• helps to learn a new form of behavior;
• contributes to the development of personality;

Forms of providing psychological assistance:

• psychological counseling;
• psychological diagnostics;
• psychological information;
• psychological accompaniment;
• psychological support;
• psychotherapy;
• group work;
• psychocorrection.

Preventive forms of psychological assistance are counseling, diagnostics, information and support. These forms of assistance can be provided both orally and in writing. Especially at the diagnostic stage, a combination of written questionnaires and oral and written consultations is used.

Psychological counseling is a set of measures carried out by a psychologist and aimed at providing the recipient of services with information on psychological issues, emotional support, assistance in making informed decisions and assessing their own psychological resources to change behavior, to develop responsibility for their own behavior, self-awareness and change their attitude to the problem, increase stress resistance and psychological culture. In the process of counseling, the client's responsibility is emphasized, that is, it is recognized that an independent, responsible person is capable of making independent decisions in appropriate circumstances, and the counselor creates conditions that encourage the client's strong-willed behavior. The core of counseling is "consultative interaction" between the client and the counselor.

Psychological counseling solves the following tasks:

• Clarification (clarification) of the problem that the client is facing.
• Studying the client's personality in order to find out whether the client will be able to cope with his own problem on his own.
• Informing the client about the essence of his problem, about the degree of its seriousness.
• Clear formulation of advice and recommendations to the client on how best to solve his problem.
• Providing the client with additional practical advice when he has already started solving his problem.
• Teaching the client how best to prevent similar problems from occurring in the future.
• Transferring elementary, vital psychological knowledge and skills by a psychologist to the client.

Psychological diagnostics - assessment of the current psychological state and individual psychological characteristics of the recipient of services, monitoring his mental state, determining the need and optimal methods of psychological rehabilitation.

Psychological information - informing the recipient of services to form an understanding of the patterns of functioning of the human psyche, the behavior of people in extreme conditions, the formation of skills and methods of managing the capabilities of one's own psyche, providing self-help and first psychological aid to other people, as well as the readiness and desire to receive professional psychological assistance if necessary

Psychological support - a system of socio-psychological methods and methods, the use of which contributes to the socio-professional self-determination of an individual in the process of restoring his abilities, value orientations and self-awareness, increasing his competitiveness and adaptability, overcoming stressful and other life situations and preventing the occurrence of psychological crisis states

In youth, most people choose material wealth as a way to achieve happiness. By buying better real estate and things, people are more or less happy and satisfied.

Over time, some people realize that there is a more important path to happiness. Namely, the path of spiritual development, which allows you to achieve inner happiness.

Children are located and develop between the extreme levels of the parents. With unfavorable conception of children (drinking, fatigue and other unfavorable moments), there are big problems with raising children emotionally and spiritually. Once upon a time, conception was approached when a man and a woman were at the level of "love". Men understood that if there was no true love of a woman for a man, then with the appearance of a child, it may not appear for a very long time.

Raising children begins long before their conception and birth. To begin with, parents must be ready for the birth and upbringing of a child. Prepare for the moment of conception. Choose the right moment for this. And properly carry out conception. You should not conceive twins or triplets. Because it will be difficult for a woman to bear and it is economically unprofitable.

Where do twins come from and other subtleties in the same section in posts for registered users.

The problem of infertility of the first child is sometimes simply resolved over time. But in order to determine that this is exactly such a problem, a consultation with a psychologist-analyst is needed. There is a very ancient game of chess, which in a certain sense symbolizes the division of people according to potential opportunities. There are such pieces as pawns, rooks, horses, elephants, king and queen. If, in life, parents associate themselves with higher pieces, then it happens that they can conceive their first child at an interval of 5-7 years. It happens that a family breaks up, and all you had to do was consult and wait.

When giving a name to a child, it is worth remembering that as you name a ship, so it will sail. Each name has its pros and cons, but there are certain subtleties. For example, the more syllables in the name, the wider the child's possibilities for realization in life.

Children are and develop between the extreme levels of development of their parents. The habits of parents, both good and bad, turn into defects in children. Accordingly, upbringing mistakes affect certain character traits. If a child

• is constantly criticized, he learns to hate;
• is ridiculed, he becomes withdrawn;
• is moderately praised, he learns to be noble;
• is supported, he learns to value himself;
• grows in reproaches, he learns to live with a sense of guilt;
• grows in tolerance, he learns to understand others;
• grows in honesty, he learns to be fair;
• grows in security, he learns to believe in people;
• grows in hostility, she learns to be aggressive;
• grows in love, she learns to find love.

You can raise children according to books, but each child needs a special book. It is worth contacting a psychologist-analyst after the birth of the child to get certain characteristics of the "professional group", temperament, "digital portrait" and get advice on potential problems in development. In terms of character development, it is important for some children to develop mercy, for others patience, willpower or other qualities.

It takes about seven years to develop each level. A young man, with proper upbringing, can develop to the level of love by the age of 28.

Most of the problems in raising children by parents lie in the mistakes of raising children. In particular, in their untimely exit from the level of childhood (6 - 7 years) to the level of service and respect for parents. As a result, we get a very serious problem of child infantilism.

Most of the problems in raising children by parents lie in the mistakes of raising children. In particular, in their untimely exit from the level of childhood (6 - 7 years) to the level of service and respect for parents. As a result, we get a very serious problem of child infantilism. Tips on how to avoid this.

Start "forgetting" that your child is small. Give him feasible work at home, determine the circle of his responsibilities. Do it gently: "You're so big, we can even entrust you with washing the dishes."

Identify common interests. These can be cognitive interests (favorite cartoons, fairy tales, games), as well as life interests (discussion of family problems).

Involve your child in the family's economic problems. Gradually teach them to compare prices, orient themselves in the family budget (for example, give money for bread and ice cream, commenting on the amount for each product).

Do not scold, and even more so - do not insult the child in the presence of strangers. Respect the feelings and thoughts of the child. To complaints from others, even a teacher or tutor, respond: "Thank you, we will definitely talk about this topic." Teach your child to share their problems. Discuss conflict situations with them that have arisen with peers and adults. Be sincerely interested in their opinion, only in this way will you be able to form the right life position in them. Constantly talk to your child. Speech development is the key to good learning. If you have been to the theater (circus, cinema) - let them tell you what they liked most. Listen carefully, ask questions so that the child feels that you are interested. Answer every question your child asks. Only in this case will their cognitive interest never fade. Try to look at the world through your child's eyes at least sometimes. Seeing the world through the eyes of another is the basis for mutual understanding.

Praise your child more often. To complaints that something is not working out, respond: "It will definitely work out, you just need to try again." Form a high level of demands. And believe yourself that your child can do anything, you just need to help. Praise with a word, a smile, caress and tenderness.

Do not build your relationship with your child on prohibitions. Agree that they are not always reasonable. Always explain the reasons for your demands, if possible, offer an alternative. Respect for the child now is the foundation of respectful treatment of you now and in the future.

For example, a large percentage of people who have the number "3" in their date of birth have vision problems. Parents will probably care about the level to which their child's vision will fall.

Based on data on temperament and the "digital portrait", a psychologist-analyst will give advice on what qualities the child should develop and what professions may suit him. It often happens that a child simply wastes his young years and a lot of his parents' money on a profession that he does not need.

In order to create a good family, you need to be a "good" egoist and try to choose the best possible partner for yourself. The best in terms of spiritual qualities, character and other characteristics. So that the children will be better later.

Advice on developing respect and love "between a husband and wife there should be love, friendship, respect and carnal desire". If there is only carnal desire between people, this is a very unstable relationship. Passion lives for a maximum of three years. Only material values ​​​​can maintain such a relationship for some time.

A higher level of relationship is when spouses are friends. It is believed that the best option for creating a family is when a couple starts with friendship, and then, after the blessing of their parents, moves on to sex.

An even higher level is when the couple has respect. Respect, friendship and sex later give the opportunity to develop a feeling called love. The probability of building a relationship at the level of respect is no higher than 20%. But at this level of relationships, there are few "daredevils" of 3-4 levels of development, ready to lose the respect, friendship and sex of their partner for the sake of dubious pleasure.

In order to make the right choice, knowledge, experience and wisdom of the ages are needed. "Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor, and if they fall, each one can lift up his companion!" (Ecclesiastes 4:9). The Song of Songs praises the friendship of a married couple: “My beloved is like this, my friend is like this” (5:16).

Advice from a family psychologist to girls about problems in relationships with peers “remember the serious problem of infantilism in young people.” They usually do not take responsibility. Passion, that is, sex, is not love. It passes, but so does the most valuable thing a girl has for a man – youth. “Passion cannot be friends with deep love, If it can, then they will not be together for long,” wrote Omar Khayyam.

The problem of male infantilism is becoming more and more serious every year. The reasons are different: an only child, upbringing without a father, upbringing by a grandmother. The main reason is upbringing without knowledge of how to do it correctly. Girls and women should remember that the main problem of infantilism is the lack of responsibility of young people.

The basic secret is that each person is at a certain level of development xcharacter and such spiritual qualities as: trust, honesty, respect, love. In the simplest version of a family of two people, one is usually at least a minimal level higher than the other. And sometimes the difference is significant, and then the one who is lower in level pulls down the one who is higher in level. Where there is love and respect, there is an equalization of levels due to the raising of the low level to the average and higher. Where there is no love and respect, the use of violence occurs.

A husband must love his wife as himself. A wife must have true respect for her husband. Below this level it is very difficult to create a happy family.

Psychologist's advice on the optimal age difference between a man and his wife - the best age difference between a man and his wife is 7-14 years. In this case, it is easier to overcome crisis periods, in particular the crisis of 40 years. It is known that this crisis covers the period of 40-50 years for almost 66% of men and women. In the case of a difference of 10 years, a man enters a crisis at 40 years old, and his wife is 30 years old, and the children are no more than 10. This format of the family gives him the strength to bypass it. Then the wife enters a crisis at 40 years old. Moreover, many women are superimposed on another crisis. The children are already grown. At that time, the man begins a very good 12-year period, and he helps his wife get through her two gray stripes.

In the case when the difference is small, we have a situation when two people enter a crisis. The children are grown. And a breakup occurs. Of course, the purely sexual potential of a couple of the same age is better than with a difference of 14 years.

For men, the best period for choosing a wife is 25-33 years. After 30 years, problems with the search begin. They start looking among seventeen-year-old girls, and they still think about their peers. As a result, normal men with a decent income and living conditions enjoy a stable single life.

The highest level of harmony in the family is mutual love. Useful advice from a family psychologist for women and men about love "for mutual love, two hearts and two energies are needed - male and female." The only question is how to open the heart and fill it with the energy of love. The love of a man gives the power of youth and beauty to a woman, and the love of a woman gives the power and success to a man. In order to achieve mutual love, knowledge is needed.

An important secret is the psychological technologies of balancing the qualities of love and selfishness. Ancient philosophers wrote that it is difficult to cope with women, children and servants. When you bring them closer, they become rebellious, and when you take them away, they complain. A family psychologist's advice to parents on the balance of love and selfishness: "don't "pump" selfishness to your children and people close to you." Look for a point of distancing feelings.

Psychologists identify some key signs that indicate that friendship is real:

• 1. The person next to you shows compassion;
• 2. A friend is there when you are going through a tough time;
• 3. You are accepted with all your flaws;
• 4. Your victories are celebrated with you;
• 5. Your personal boundaries are respected;
• 6. They always make time for you;
• 7. They don't share your secrets with others;
• 8. Your friend is your support;
• 9. You can just keep quiet;

True friends know when to give you space and when to be there. They can sense when you are going through a tough time and offer their support and understanding without judgment. So pay attention to those who stick by you through your worst times. True friends don’t expect you to be perfect, they appreciate you for who you are. They don’t just tolerate you, they accept your flaws, understanding that they are part of who you are. Respecting personal boundaries is an important part of any healthy relationship, including friendship. True friends respect your personal space, your needs, and your boundaries. We all live busy lives. But a true friend will always find a way to make time for you, no matter how busy their schedule is. True friendship is built on trust, and a big part of that trust is knowing that your secrets will be safe. With a true friend, you can be yourself. You won’t feel the need to talk nonstop – if you feel like being silent, they will be silent with you. True friends can bring us down to earth, help us see things from a different perspective, and help us cope with life’s challenges. Having someone in your life who can help you cope with life's challenges not only relieves stress, but also strengthens your ability to cope with these challenges.

A great psychologist of the past wrote about choosing friends: "Beautiful is that village where love reigns. If, when choosing a place, we do not settle where love reigns, then where will we gain wisdom?" A person chooses his environment, friends and, in fact, his future. There is a wise saying that says "Show me your friends, and I will tell you who you are”

The wisdom of the ages says that if we highlight the three most important characteristics, we will get three types of useful and harmful friends. Useful friends are a direct friend, a sincere friend and a friend who has heard a lot. Harmful friends are a hypocritical friend, a flattering friend and a talkative friend. Useful advice from the great psychologist of antiquity Confucius on choosing friends: “therefore, make loyalty and sincerity your main priority, do not be friends with people who are worse than you, and if you make a mistake, do not be afraid to correct yourself.”

The founder of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud, considered the main signs of a person's mental health to be the ability to love and the ability to work. Modern psychologists believe that in order for a person to be able to love, work, play and enjoy these things, he must have the following basic signs of mental and emotional health.

The ability to love another as he is. The ability to accept the imperfections of another, without idealization and devaluation.

The ability to work. This is the ability to create and create something that has value for a person, family and society. This is the ability to find and choose a job to which a person devotes himself, to get pleasure from doing this work.

The ability to secure relationships. This is the ability to build and maintain healthy, stable, safe and long-term relationships with loved ones. A person receives the experience of secure attachment in early childhood. A child grows up in a relationship of secure attachment and grows into an adult capable of building relationships on this basis.

Ability to autonomy. The ability to take into account and integrate everything that is given by nature and what a person has been able to develop in himself. This is a sense of unity with the body.

The ability to recover from stress. This is the ability to overcome stress in adequate ways and the ability to adapt to a new situation and get out of it with the least losses.

Realistic self-esteem. Gives a person the ability to notice their shortcomings, but in general treats themselves well, they are able to learn from mistakes, and therefore can admit them and not subject themselves to harsh criticism.

A system of value orientations. This is the ability to understand moral and ethical norms, their content, while being flexible in their observance.

The ability to withstand emotions. This is the ability to stay and be with your emotions, experience them, while not acting under their influence. The ability to withstand all your emotions is based on the ability to separate thoughts and emotions from automatic actions, the ability to distinguish the external reality of actions from the internal reality of feelings.

The ability to be aware of reflection. People who are reflective are able to determine what their problem is, and accordingly, it is most beneficial for themselves to solve it. One of the important indicators of the ability to be aware of themselves is a sense of humor.

A sense of detachment. The ability to realize that you are you, and the other is the other. Detachment is the understanding that the other has intentions that relate to their own contexts.

Balance between self- and other-orientedness. This is the ability to maintain a balance between what I do for myself and what I do for others. If there is no balance in this area, a person may experience signs of depression, loneliness, or despair.

A sense of vitality. The ability to be and feel alive. The ability to be enthusiastic, to produce meanings.

The ability to accept what we cannot change. This is the ability to sincerely and honestly grieve, feel pain, sorrow for what cannot be changed, continuing to live. Accepting one's limitations and mourning what a person would like to have, but under certain circumstances cannot have.

Our inner attitude towards ourselves is reflected on our face. The psychosomatic interaction between the psyche and the physical condition of the skin can become a fundamental factor in shaping our external impression. Emotional stress can play a key role in skin aging. Short-term stress can stimulate the skin's defense mechanisms, but long-term stress can affect its structure and accelerate the aging process. Managing your emotional state can be an important part of your beauty routine. Everyone has their own path to beauty. Individual beliefs and being in harmony with your inner values ​​can determine how much we perceive and accept our own appearance.

• Taking care of your body. How we feel physically certainly has an impact on our emotional state.
• Taking care of your diet. A balanced diet helps stabilize your emotional state.
• Physical activity. Balanced physical activity.
• Control the intake of medications that reduce anxiety levels and affect emotional state.
• Control the monitoring of news should be limited in time.
• Quality sleep. Take care of your sleep to feel emotionally balanced.
• Rest. Recover with the help of things that bring you pleasure.
• Listen to music. Music has an effect on our feelings and can cause the appearance of different emotions.

Accordingly, we have the following features of female psychology:

• Sensitivity and emotionality
• Frequent mood swings
• The need for reliable support
• The presence of an emotional connection with a partner
• Love for compliments
• The desire to be the only one
• The need for control
• Caring for others

We are what we eat! Healthy nutrition and maintaining water balance are the key to good health, physical health, energy and a good mood. We all know about the importance of a healthy lifestyle and proper nutrition. Social networks advertise diets, offer various programs and even trainings, where they teach the principles of healthy eating. But, first, you need to answer the following question: "What is healthy eating for me and what are the obstacles to implementing it in my everyday life?". Such obstacles can be different, and accordingly, their identification and understanding is the key to overcoming them. For example, often a person simply lacks understanding of what healthy eating is and the balance of calories consumed and expended. At the same time, there may be another situation when a person perfectly understands the essence of healthy eating, has a balanced weekly menu, but at the same time has a psychological dependence on sweets, because this is how he overcomes stress by eating chocolate. Here a slightly different approach is needed to solve the problem.

Also, in today's realities, the biggest obstacle to a healthy lifestyle and balanced diet is often the lack of time to cook. In this case, it is worth noting that usually the problem is not the lack of time, but how we distribute it. However, despite the fact that there seems to be a simple recipe for solving the situation, in practice, there are cases when a practical solution to the problem requires a lot of time, effort, and sometimes a deep dive into family relationships and parental views on raising children. A simple recipe for success: introduce a culture of healthy eating into family values, plan the purchase of products and the menu. And remember the famous proverb: "Porridge is better eaten together."

Quit smoking. Tobacco reduces oxygen intake and worsens skin tone, interferes with the absorption of vitamins, and also damages hair, making it more brittle.

You need to define goals that should be clear to you, your mind and subconscious. Therefore, it is important to clearly understand your goals and formulate them as specifically as possible. This is a program that we download into our minds and subconsciousness. Goals should be specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound.

Everyone has their own scale of values: for someone it is family and children, for someone finances, the opportunity to travel a lot and so on. There can be many components of happiness for each specific person. In order to really be successful, you need to have goals in all the main areas:

• spiritual development;
• professional development;
• intellectual development;
• health and beauty;
• relationship;
• family;

Plan ahead. Highly conscientious, goal-oriented people often excel at tasks that require planning, discipline, and attention to detail. Research shows that achieving a goal becomes easier if you develop effective strategies and plan everything in advance. This can prepare you to deal with any issues that may arise in the process.

A state of constant focus on goals. Although distractions are inevitable, focusing your attention on activities that are relevant to the goal helps you achieve the goal faster. Breaking your goal down into smaller steps and focusing on one at a time can help keep you focused and avoid burnout or overwhelm. However, do not forget to allocate time for quality rest.

Be persistent According to expectancy theory, we are motivated to exert effort toward a goal if we believe it will lead to improved performance and reward. Based on these expected benefits, as well as the perceived difficulty of the goal, we decide how much effort to put into it.

Remember your goals. Research shows that how much you care about and are committed to your goals affects the amount of effort you put in and, naturally, the results. If you can assess how useful and meaningful a goal is to you, you can better prioritize it and get more motivated to achieve it.

Believe in yourself. Self-efficacy is a person's belief in his ability to perform tasks and achieve goals. The higher your self-efficacy, the more likely you are to set challenging goals and work hard to achieve them. Research has shown that self-efficacy can increase your desire to master a new skill and demonstrate your competence by trying to perform tasks better than others. This will reduce your fear of failure and allow you to achieve your goals with greater confidence.

Change your environment. It is important to surround yourself with people who believe in you and confirm your value. It helps if they also show courage and you are part of a community that inspires and pushes each other to new achievements. Additionally, people who actively seek and respond to feedback are more likely to make the necessary course corrections and maximize their performance.

Celebrate Small Successes Celebrating every small victory, even when you face obstacles, strengthens your belief that you can overcome them. This leads to greater self-confidence. While innate talent and intelligence play a big role, perseverance and fortitude are the forces that keep us on the road to success. It can be developed and improved by setting clear, challenging goals and staying focused on achieving them.

Modern man strives for success, beauty, health and self-realization. Under the influence of the media and the pace of life, we form an idea of ​​what an ideal personality should be. Often comparing ourselves with this image, we feel dissatisfaction, which prompts us to change. But where to start the path of self-improvement?

Self-development is a desire to improve the quality of life and personal growth. Many people dream of an ideal image of themselves: a fit, active and successful person doing what they love. But when it comes to concrete action, many put it off. Self-development involves improving certain aspects of life that need attention. It is impossible to change everything at once - it can cause fear and demotivation. Therefore, it is important to start with the one area that needs the biggest changes.

How to start changes? Many people think that change requires great resources and capabilities. But psychologists advise to start small - devote 20-30 minutes to self-improvement. per day. First, you need to determine which area of ​​life needs immediate changes.

Spiritual development. Personal growth involves being aware of your shortcomings and working on them. It is important to get rid of negative emotions and improve relationships with others.

Health. Health is the basis of success. It is important to pay attention to your daily routine, physical activity and nutrition. Giving up bad habits will also improve the quality of life.

Finances. If you are not satisfied with your income or job, you should consider professional development. Attending trainings, courses and seminars can help you find new opportunities.

Social connections. It is important to surround yourself with positive people who support you. Analyze your relationship and work on improving it.

Intellectual development. Development of memory, attention and thinking helps to achieve success in any field. Reading books, learning new things - all this contributes to intellectual growth.

Gradual changes. Changes take time and regularity. Take small steps every day and they will produce big results. Start changing your life right now. Take a small but important step that will increase your self-esteem. Motivate yourself and start with those things that really interest you. Self-improvement can be an exciting process that will open new horizons and change your life for the better.

Typical situations when it is better to be silent and listen than to say something:

• In emotional moments. When emotions are at their peak, our ability to think rationally is lost. In such situations, silence can indeed be golden. This is not about suppressing emotions or avoiding confrontation. It's about giving your mind the pause it needs to process the situation and responding rationally rather than reacting mindlessly.
• When someone pours out his soul in front of you. When a friend, family member, or colleague comes to us with a heavy heart, our instinct is to offer advice or share our own experiences. But in fact, it will be more useful if you just silently listen to the person. At least until she said everything she wanted to say.
• When you are provoked to an immediate response. When we feel provoked, our instinctive response can lead to reactive rather than thoughtful communication. At times like these, taking a step back and choosing silence can prevent potential harm.
• When you are tempted to gossip. We've all been in situations where gossiping seems like an easy way to fit in with or bond with others. But in reality, staying silent instead of gossiping promotes healthier and more respectful relationships with everyone around you.
• When it is important to hear the opinion of the interlocutor. If you are being told something important, you should focus on what the interlocutor is saying and don't interrupt with comments or questions before he says what he wanted to say. In fact, choosing to be silent in such moments not only improves our communication skills, but also fosters deeper connections with others.
• When to think before you speak. Sometimes it happens that you simply do not have a ready answer to what is said. At such moments, it is better to take a break to think, or even to clarify information in other sources. Giving more thoughtful answers means making fewer mistakes and communicating your ideas more effectively.
• During an unproductive argument. It has already been said above about emotional situations. But arguments can also be emotionless. And if it becomes obvious that the interlocutor is frankly not ready to hear your arguments, then the best course of action may be silence. This will give both parties an opportunity to think through the situation.
• When words are simply inappropriate. When you witness someone's grief, often the best thing you can do is just be there. Silently.

Psychologists advise not to share information about yourself. It's a delicate balance that allows you to connect with others, but not so much that you expose your vulnerability or risk your well-being. It is noted that confidentiality is not only about keeping secrets. It's about keeping a space for yourself that won't be touched by outside judgment or influence. In a world where over-sharing has become the norm, choosing to keep certain things private can be a powerful act of self-preservation and respect for personal boundaries.

Addresses that should be kept secret:

Personal life. Psychology suggests that it is wise to keep a part of your personal life to yourself. In the age of social media, it's tempting to share everything from breakfast to the latest relationship spat. But oversharing can sometimes lead to feelings of vulnerability and even negative reactions from others. Some aspects of your personal life are better kept private. It is about intimate details of relationships, family problems and other very personal events. Disclosing these details may lead to unwanted opinions, advice or judgment from others. When there is a desire to share something personal, you need to think whether it is really necessary and useful.

Finance. Information about money is better kept secret. Discussing income, debt, or even savings can lead to awkward situations or unhealthy comparisons. It's okay to discuss things in general terms, like financial goals or budgeting advice. However, the details of your financial situation can lead to unnecessary stress or misunderstandings. Everyone's financial journey is unique, and it's not a race or competition.

Goals and dreams. Psychological research suggests that talking about your goals can sometimes be harmful. The reason is a phenomenon known as "social reality". When a person shares a goal with someone, the brain feels the same satisfaction as if it had actually achieved it. This can reduce motivation to work towards a goal. Also, when goals are open, you can also be open to criticism and doubt from others, which can further hinder progress.

Medical history. Health is a personal matter and it is generally good to keep medical history private. Discussing health issues can sometimes lead to unsolicited advice or unnecessary concern from others. In addition, in certain situations, disclosure of medical history may even have legal consequences or affect professional life. This information can be shared with a trusted friend, family member or healthcare professional.

Personal complaints. Constant complaining and resentment can create a negative atmosphere and potentially damage the relationship. Discussing personal grievances can sometimes be perceived as gossip or complaints. These are not particularly attractive features. It can also cause others to question their ability to effectively resolve conflict.

Good deeds. Good deeds can bring great joy and satisfaction. However, when these actions are shared with others, it can sometimes lessen this feeling. Sharing these moments with others can sometimes shift the focus from the act itself to seeking validation or praise. The beauty of kindness lies in its purity and selflessness.

Errors. Everyone has a history of mistakes and failures. They are important to our personal growth, but not necessarily something to broadcast. By keeping them a secret, the individual chooses to live in the present and the future, not the past.

Family problems. Every family has its own difficulties and problems, but discussing these issues openly can sometimes do more harm than good. Family issues are deeply personal and often complex. Broadcasting them can lead to unwanted opinions, judgments or even misunderstandings. It can also inadvertently strain your family relationships. Respect for private life helps maintain family harmony and allows you to solve internal problems.

Personal beliefs. Personal beliefs, whether religious, political, or philosophical, are a fundamental part of personality. However, openly sharing them can often lead to heated discussions or even conflicts. Beliefs are deeply personal and can vary greatly. Discussing them can sometimes lead to arguments or the feeling that you are not understood.

Interesting news. Many members of the middle class are struggling to accumulate wealth and achieve financial stability in today's economy. Even though they earn decent incomes, certain habits can sabotage their efforts to achieve financial success. Living with low self-esteem can feel like walking through a minefield blindfolded. You are never sure of your worth and often underestimate yourself without even realizing it.